Blogging | Comparisons and Inferiority

You may or may not have noticed that I've been a bit absent from my blog recently. I was really excited to write up all my travelling posts and get back into blogging on a regular basis, but I found my enthusiasm slowly draining over the past few weeks, and I've just now figured out why.

I follow a lot of other blogs and read them on a regular basis. I also follow my favourite bloggers on various social media sites. As a result, every time I go online, I'm surrounded by bloggers who are doing really well, producing great content that brings a lot of reader interaction, and getting fantastic opportunities. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for them all and love seeing them do well, but it causes me to look at my own blog and I can't help but feel inferior. 

I in no way expect my blog to ever be as big as theirs and to be honest, I don't know if I'd actually want it to be. It is not my intention to become a full-time blogger because I'm at uni and will hopefully land a journalism job that I love when I graduate. I just worry that my blog isn't as good as it could be and that I'm not working hard enough. Like I said, though, I'm at uni so that has to be my priority. I've also been suffering with terrible headaches and migraines recently, which has made sitting down at my laptop to spend ages doing a blog post almost impossible.

A few days ago I realised that I was putting a bit too much pressure on myself. At the end of the day, this is just a little space on the internet for me to write about whatever I feel like. It doesn't have to be anything special, it doesn't have to keep up with any trends, and I don't have to feel bad about myself for not being some kind of blogging Queen. 

I started my blog because I love to write and I want to share some of that with anyone who fancies reading it. It's as simple as that so I'm going to go back to basics a little. I'm going to relax and stop comparing my blog to others' and constantly checking my stats. I'm going to write about whatever I want, without worrying about whether it will be a popular post or not. I'd like to do more lifestyle posts because I enjoy writing them, but I've always been worried about what people would think.

Sorry for the rambly post but I just wanted to explain my absence while also sharing my thoughts on blogging a little bit. I'd love to hear from anyone else who's been in a similar situation or who understands the feeling of your blog never being good enough. At the end of the day, it's all just a bit of fun so we should be enjoying it!

Have you ever felt disheartened by blogging? How did you get past it?

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  1. Oh yeah - been there. More than once. I read all sorts of different blogs - some are lifestyle, some are random like mine, and some share recipes and makeup tips and OOTD's and exercise I'm here I didn't say what I was actually thinking to one of my co-workers, so maybe I should get a reward? I see these involved recipes and I'm like "dude, seriously? I'll just get take-out chinese and sit around in my jeans and tee shirt." I guess sometimes it makes me worry not just about my blog, but about my life. Of course, (I don't know if you still read my blog or not) but if you do, you'll know that my inferiority complex is like the friend that will never go away.
    I keep reminding myself it's just about writing and sharing whatever I feel like for myself, but at the same time, I'm like "comment, dammit!" Follow me on instagram, dammit! I'm interesting, dammit! Le sigh.
    Anyway, it'll be good to see you sharing the stuff you want to share for you, because that's when stuff is most interesting.

    1. That's a good point about it making you question your actual life too - social media makes it easy to create an illusion of an amazing, glamorous life and that can make others feel really bad about their own. I totally get that.
      Haha yes, as much as I try not to let it affect me I still get excited about getting comments and new followers, but I guess that's not a bad thing.
      Thank you, and thanks for still reading! I have your blog bookmarked and check back regularly! x

  2. I think it's hard to not compare yourself in all aspects of life. And blogging/online presence makes it so easy to make your life look better (intentionally or not) than it really is.

    Though with blogging, the number of followers, comments, and corporate sponsorship is hard to shrug at! I've been blogging for awhile, and if I think about it, my numbers are pretty lame compared to others at the same or less amount of time!

    1. That's definitely true - I often wonder why my life doesn't look like a perfectly filtered instagram feed!
      I feel the same way about my blog and whilst things like followers and sponsorships are certainly impressive, I have to remind myself that that's not the most important goal in my life x

  3. We'll I'm glad to see it's not just me who has these moments! It's good to earth yourself every now and then and remember why you really enjoyed blogging. Lovely post and blog! Thanks for sharing x